Facing the unknown as a newly single person can be overwhelming – but it can also be wonderful. Every separation is different, but there are things you can do to not only survive after divorce – but to thrive during this transition.
- Mourn your loss: Even if you initiated the divorce, you may still be feeling a sense of loss. No one enters a marriage expecting it to end one day. Give yourself plenty of time and space to grieve this ending before you begin to rebuild.
- Find yourself again: Every relationship involves some amount of compromise. We often give up hobbies or interests when we become part of a couple. Revisiting an old passion you gave up during the marriage can be incredibly empowering.
- Learn to love yourself: Let go of feelings of guilt or failure attached to your divorce. Forgiving yourself for what you did or did not do allows you to move forward. Remind yourself that you are loveable.
- Do not be afraid to be alone: Being single does not have to mean being lonely. Solitude can be liberating. If you make peace with being single, you are less likely to jump back into familiar unhealthy relationship patterns.
- Reinvent yourself: As important as it is to remember essential parts of yourself you abandoned when you got married, it is equally important to discover new things about yourself. Take a class; try a new hobby. Treat yourself to a new wardrobe or try a new haircut to bring some of your confidence back.
- Date outside your comfort zone: When you are finally ready to meet someone new, approach dating with an open-mind. Venturing outside your usual “type” may just bring someone special into your life you might have overlooked before.
- Add some laughter to your life: It may be hard to let go of sadness and disappointment after divorce. It is important for your mental and physical well-being to release stress and anxiety. Learn to laugh at yourself. You cannot change the past, so it is better to focus on your bright future ahead.
- Live with purpose: It takes tremendous courage to let go of what is not working. This is a good time to reevaluate what is truly important to you and focus on living a purposeful life. Let go of unnecessary obligations. Spend your time doing what you love. Remind yourself that it is okay to say no sometimes.
Divorce is an ending, but it can also be the start of a bright new beginning. With patience, time, and self-care, it is possible to come through divorce stronger and happier than ever.
West Chester Divorce Lawyers at Eckell Sparks Assist With all Aspects of Divorce and Child Custody
Emotional healing is an important part of the divorce process. The practical matters of divorce need to be addressed as well. The West Chester family law lawyers at Eckell, Sparks, Levy, Auerbach, Monte, Sloane, Matthews & Auslander, P.C. are highly-experienced at handling all facets of divorce, including alimony, child custody, and property division. We will handle your case with compassion and understanding, consider all options, and offer the best legal course of action for you and your family.
To speak with a skilled West Chester divorce lawyer, call 610-565-3701 today or submit an online inquiry. We have locations in Media and West Chester to serve clients in Chester County, Delaware County, Montgomery County, and the towns of Collegeville, Havertown, Lansdale, Marcus Hook, Phoenixville and Upper Darby, Pennsylvania.